tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-962797170778638266.post6548846676959362574..comments2023-06-20T05:44:46.208-07:00Comments on The Stately Pleasure Domme: The BasicsTSPDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12425790603328153837noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-962797170778638266.post-35170099491109802622018-04-18T06:11:33.609-07:002018-04-18T06:11:33.609-07:00Thank you, Ms Chloe, for the very kind words!Thank you, Ms Chloe, for the very kind words!TSPDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12425790603328153837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-962797170778638266.post-78937231015830035242018-04-18T00:27:42.314-07:002018-04-18T00:27:42.314-07:00Great reply. It's practically a blog post unto...Great reply. It's practically a blog post unto itself. You explain well, Lady. :-)Ms. Chloehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13242159449140009170noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-962797170778638266.post-33582689803002898032018-04-17T21:43:39.899-07:002018-04-17T21:43:39.899-07:00Also, My experience has been that men actually rea...Also, My experience has been that men actually really like the Transparency requirement. A former boy actually just mentioned it to Me today. It gives guys much needed permission. Many subby men have struggled to please unpleaseable Women, and gotten really hurt in the process. Many men I've met have had painful experiences trying to express their feelings, and their partner dismissing them or yelling at them. Many guys know they carry stuff, they just don't know what to do about it, and they appreciate that I require them to talk. Once they realize that I mean it, that it is actually safe to be honest with Me, they relax. Then I feel like we have the beginnings of a relationship.<br />TSPDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12425790603328153837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-962797170778638266.post-10079391202720142272018-04-17T21:29:42.697-07:002018-04-17T21:29:42.697-07:00I may have glossed over the part where I qualified...I may have glossed over the part where I qualified the boy before getting to this point. I definitely don't expect total transparency from the first conversation, but I do early raise it as an expectation. I don't meet many people in the Big City who talk about honesty being important to them, and usually if I do, we are standing in a church. So I seem to be unusual in this area, and it's part of why I like M/s, they talk more about honor, integrity, etc. A boy that is not be fully honest with Me and/ or with himself (generally the core of the problem), is usually a boy that isn't going to work for Me on a number of levels. So Transparency functions as a fine litmus test. Can I have fun without it? Sure. But I've also had too many unpleasant moments that arose from assuming people would be truthful in the way I was raised to be. It just makes sense for Me to control for this particular cultural bias. Admittedly, it is not for everyone!TSPDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12425790603328153837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-962797170778638266.post-71376194961348089302018-04-17T02:56:56.503-07:002018-04-17T02:56:56.503-07:00I like your post. I read twice the "duty of t...I like your post. I read twice the "duty of transparency" part, because I am not sure how I feel about it. I think those things, those requirements, take time. Asking someone to be an open book can be daunting. It might be the goal, but as a requirement, my guess is that it would likely scare off a lot of people. It takes trust to hand stuff like that over, and trust is a process. Process takes time and experience. And lots of it. But hey, this is just my opinion....I only speak from my own little corner of the kinky world. Nice to see you writing....you asked for comment, hope you don't mind that I did. :-)Ms. Chloehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13242159449140009170noreply@blogger.com